Mothers are society's most courageous, tireless and lion-hearted warriors. Filipino mommies are also fit to be called supermoms nowadays. According to experts full-time moms spent 12 to 15 hours attending to household chores while working mothers with a combination of career workloads and home duties spent about 15 to 16 hours doing both. Also according to some authorities, women suffer physical and emotional stress than men do. Most of these strenuous problems are felt by working mothers. And some stretched-out mothers are reported to eat a lot during worn-out periods that is usually caused by deep stress. As mothers, we want our family to feel loved, happy, and worry-free. Because of this, we take on additional workloads and responsibilities, doing everything within our means to make our family's life wonderful and easier. These are the things being done by supermoms yet overburdened ones. Balancing things about money, work, and family made supermoms superstressed. Are you a supermom? Are you a woman who performs the traditional duties of housekeeping and child-rearing while also having a full-time job? Have you ever experienced preparing your reports for work while waiting for your washing machine to stop spinning, and preparing your children's school things at the same time waiting for a lunch menu to be cooked on the stove? If yes, you are truly a supermom. How then do you deal with stress that being a supermom may bring? Most of our supermoms of today are also superstressed. Nowadays, becoming a mother comes with a pressure of becoming a supermom. While the word supermom is very positive as it seems, it also demands a very different perspective when it comes to our roles as mothers. Many expect a lot from a supermom. Supermoms have a very big risk of experiencing fatigue, mental concerns, health problems, weight gain, marital issues, and personal problems as well.How? Almost all the mother responsibilities make supermoms overstretched and stressed out. Working moms face difficulties with their bosses, colleagues, friends, husband, and of course their children. The results of this chronic stress may not be helpful to become a better mom. One way that you can provide better things for the members of your family is to lessen your stress by having a proper health care system.
Because Valentines Day is fast approaching, it is indeed a great time for mothers to know the significance of addressing and managing the stress you're getting by being a supermom. Learn to love yourselves by caring for yourselves in a healthy way. Here are some strategies to help you a bit.
One, Pray, Eat, and Play
Pray for a few minutes to God to ask for guidance in making your mind and soul ready for daily tasks or enjoy a moment of silence before you start the day.
Eat but be very mindful of what you eat. Most of us mothers eat sweet and high in carbohydrates foods when strained. These make us more stressed. Make healthy food choices then.
Play in order for you to reduce your stress. Play includes various relaxing activities, exercise, and meditation. Do something nice for yourselves by having activities that you enjoy and value.
Two-Plan, Evaluate, and Balance
Plan your daily schedules with utmost attention. Create a proportionally graph that shows proper distribution of your tasks. Choose the things that require your attention and prioritize. Put things in perspective. Prioritize things that really matter most. This enable you not to cram on issues that need prioritization. Reflect on your real priorities.
Evaluate your idea or concept of being a supermom. Unhealthy behaviors and unhealthy concepts will never reduce stress but escalate it more. Make realistic approaches and strategies to finish your targets that will not sacrifice your health.You will never be a good or great mom if you have personal or health issues.You may delegate responsibilities.You may also ask the support of family members to lessen the loads that you are carrying. Do not also forget to say no to things that are least important.
Balance all the aspects of your life. Establish symmetry in all your duties to avoid burn out. Create a well-balanced strategy to meet your spiritual, physical, psychological, emotional, social, sexual, and personal needs.
Three-Laugh, Live, and Love
Laugh because laughter is the best medicine to an ailing life. Remember to be with people that matter to you. Laugh at each other's jokes during special times. And always find humor in your problems.
Live your life with optimism and enthusiasm. Do activities that will bring balance, happiness, and triumphs to your life. Embrace your imperfections. Nobody is perfect, remember?
Love your partner in life. Talking, hearing, understanding, and loving your partner improve your ability to persevere during stressful times. Love all the people that surround you with respect. Strengthen the relationship with all the members of your family to inspire each other. Forget about those things that exhaust and diminish your resilience. Mothers often put the needs of all the members of their families first before theirs. At the end, they usually neglect their own needs. Remember that supermoms are only a product of our imagination. Armoring ourselves with those mythical superstrength, superspeed, and supervulnerability powers may result to depression, anxiety, and unhappiness if goals are not met. We are real moms. We do not have to put a lot of pressure to ourselves. Do not compare yourselves to other mothers. Every mom is a real mom. All mothers experience challenges and struggles. Every real mom faces difficulties in life. Do not live so much with others' expectations. Avoid things and people that contribute to the reduction of your full potential and depletion of your self-esteem.Forget about your supermom capes. You do not really have superpowers, let go of being a supermom. Forget perfection and choose happiness. Make realistic goals for yourself and your family.
Just remember the happiest moms are not the supermoms but the real moms. What is more wonderful than being real moms ourselves. Enjoy our family life by savoring the tiny things that we can do to all the members of our family daily. Do not push yourselves too hard. PUSH for being nicer to yourselves instead. PUSH for a possibility that there are lot of kinder options in life.
( Courtesy of Kids Social Network)
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