Tuesday, July 21, 2015

CAN YOU LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY?

Love is indeed of paramount importance. Life is beautiful if we know what love really is. According to the words of God, Love means living our life the way He commanded us to live. But can we love without conditions like what God is doing to us? 

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We all know that love is difficult to define. Persons in authority like the psychologists, writers, and all other people like us can not specifically explain the meaning of love. What more if we are going to talk about UNCONDITIONAL LOVE? Do you really believe that unconditional love really exists?  Believing about unconditional love and putting it into action requires a huge amount of understanding the concept, having faith, a great deal of intimacy, and a positive relationship. Loving unconditionally is not really about our feelings. It is something to do about our actions. Giving your love to someone without boundaries is a CHOICE. A  chosen decision which is made to love someone regardless of any circumstances, struggles, hardships, and disappointments. Thus, it means loving another whoever he/she is and no matter what he/she fails to do. 














The question is HOW TO LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY?

To love without conditions, one has to be aware of some important things to consider and remember.

1. GOD IS LOVE
The most important lesson in life that God wants us to learn on earth is how to love.  Love is really the foundation of all the ten commandments He has given to us.  "Love others as you love yourself."
Let us always value most the selfless love. Loving anyone unselfishly is too difficult for some. But because we have learned how to love God first and foremost, He will help us learn how to love others us well. We are actually given a lifetime to do it.

2. LOVE ISN'T BLIND
If you have newly fallen in love with another and you have not known him/her yet especially his/her character, be sure to give each other a chance to know each other gradually. You will not be choosing him/her, if you did not see good things in him/her during your first meeting. Love actually gives us sight. When we are in love with someone even at first sight, we come to see that person in a very unique way. So none is blinded by love.

3. LOVING UNCONDITIONALLY IS AN ACTION NOT A FEELING
To love without conditions does not mean to accept the negative, abusive and destructive behavior of your loved one. And because unconditional love is more of an action rather than a feeling, one must have to help the other on   things that go with accountability and responsibility. Feelings are the response we get from something or someone. Thus, it is quite conditional. 
Unconditional love otherwise is putting solutions and making actions. It is a choice to strive for the goodness of one another. 

4. LOVING YOURSELF PROPERLY
Giving love without conditions is unselfish and selfless. And in order for you to share love to others, you have to learn to love yourself properly. You must acknowledge your flaws and weaknesses. By doing this properly, it would be very easy for you to share and offer your limitless love to other people. Therefore, if you could forgive yourself with your mistakes and imperfections, you are more than ready to show your love to anyone.

5. SPREADING THE LOVE WHOLEHEARTEDLY
We deal daily with different kinds of individuals, from the members of our
family, to our friends, co-workers and even to our neighbors. They are all different. Spread the unconditional love to each one of them taking into consideration the most loving thing a certain individual needs in a certain time. Unconditional love is choosing the right loving approach with a particular person at a particular situation.

6. FORGIVING THOSE PEOPLE YOU LOVE
According to Mother Theresa, "If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive." We must always have to let go of our resentment, regret, and anger to love someone. Help your loved ones grow and learn lessons about their mistakes. Never ever forget to let them feel that they are loved yet they did something wrong. Loving unconditionally does not mean of ignoring the hurtful things they did to you, hurtful words they said to you, and forgetting them all in order to love. Loving with no boundaries mean forgiveness, kindness, care, obligation and acceptance.

    Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with           every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving         each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32 NIV

7. SUPPORTING THEM AT ALL TIMES
Providing unconditional love is a difficult task. It is our role to aid our loved ones to understand that there are misfortunes, hardships, failures and disappointments in life. Help them realize that those things are part of life's changes and challenges that each one has to encounter. Unconditional love means doing a lot of things to guide and care for them in time of troubles. Suggest positive solutions into resolving the problems at hand.

8. NOBODY IS PERFECT
Acknowledgement of one's flaws and imperfections means loving your loved ones unconditionally. Learn to accept who they are. Do not try to control and dominate them that they may lose their individuality and essence. Loving unconditionally is helping them strive to achieve happiness and comfort.


Now, can you love unconditionally?

There are actually different situations in our life that loving someone is too difficult to do. Sometimes we do and say ill things to him/her because he/she makes us unhappy and disappointed. Or it is because, we do not get our expectations from them. In this kind of circumstance, we tend to give conditions and provisions to LOVE. More specifically, if that special someone can not repay or return the good things we do for him/her.

ISN'T LOVE ENOUGH? 

Love is more than enough.
Learn to love because God wants us to love everyone.
Learn to love because  life is love.
Learn to love because life is worthless without it.
Love unconditionally because our family needs us.
Love unconditionally because others need it.
Love without conditions and without being scared of getting hurt because a lot of people long for it.
Love without boundaries because we want others to be happy.
Love unconditionally by looking beyond each other's faults, weaknesses, and shortcomings because we want our world a better place for everyone. 

THE BEST TIME TO LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY IS NOW!


    



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